Most couples experience conflict or
discontent in their marital relationships. It is a normal part of growth and change. Changes in jobs, having children, health issues and family of origin issues can all contribute to discontent or loss of interest in a relationship. It does not, however, mean that there is not hope for improvement. As couples adjust to change in their lives they can and do regain or even find an even better level of satisfaction in their relationship. Some couples may need help in working through issues that are causing distance or dissatisfaction in their relationships. For couples who have not worked through a period of conflict or dissatisfaction after 6 months it is most likely time to consider professional help. Signs that your relationship is not healing are:
-You argue or fight about the same issues over and over again
-One or both of you have difficulty letting go of past issues or hurts
- One or both of you is angry or resentful frequently
-One or both of you has been tempted to seek confort with someone outside of the relationship or has been unfaithfull
-There are continuing conflicts about money or parenting
-One or both of you avoid conversation for fear it will lead to an argument or fight
If some of these symptoms describe your relationship consider seeking help to learn new skills for more effective communication, determine what are the core issues that are leading to distance in your relationship and develop a strategy for a healthy lifelong relationship that will weather the adversities of living.